Self-care is all over the place these days. Whether it's discussed in the therapy or counseling world, when talking about physical health, or even overall "wellness", you can't escape hearing about basic tips to improve well-being.
As a therapist, what most people don't realize is that this is the number one area where most people skimp as soon as they become busy and overwhelmed.
For some reason, everyone has it in their heads that they need to be busy 100% of the time or they aren't "successful". Even in conversations with peers, co-workers and family members, there's a constant state of "one-upping" that happens when we talk about being busy. It's like a "right of passage" to being an adult.
What we don't realize is that this sort of lifestyle is NOT healthy. Being busy all the time leads to stress, anxiety, and eventually burnout.
Another thing that people don't realize is that self-care doesn't have to be $100 pedicures, shopping spree's or spa treatments. Basic self-care is easy, but it does take some reminders and practice.
So to avoid all that mess, here's some super basic tips to start taking care of yourself.
1) Stop People-Pleasing
You do not need to say "yes" to every single thing people ask you to do. This means sometimes saying no to working late, extra work projects and even the occasional work happy-hour. Guess what? If you're constantly involved in work-related activities, you're going to feel like you're working all the time. And then you're going to start resenting your job.
This also goes for social activities. Just because your mother's aunt's best-friend is having a BBQ doesn't mean you need to attend. I know a lot of people get stuck in the mentality that they have to do things, and they don't do anything because they really want to.